Regarding Amy
To Love Online Or Not
Disclaimer: the only reason this topic is discussed so much is because I live online, I’m single, and everyone around seems to bring it up. So, if I have to hear about it, you have to hear about it. If you don’t wanna hear about it, read someone else’s blog. LOL
So, the last couple weeks have been extremely busy, but I’m starting to work out a routine that I believe is going to work out just fine for me. It actually gives me a couple days off in the week like normal people and now I’m slightly weirded out because I don’t know what to do with myself.
So, I went to Kym’s....Leah accompanied me. We had a blast, ate lots of food, watched a couple of 80’s movies like Can’t Buy Me Love and Girls Just Wanna Have Fun. You know, classics! 
It was just the girls, so we talked about normal “girl” things. The next morning, Mom Brown came up to the house and we all had donuts and discussed “finding the right man”. LOL
Now, for those of you who have been married for quite some time and don’t quite remember the single days, let me inform you of a little bit of what we go through today. Today, there are so many books, know-it-alls, friends, family, etc who surround you constantly telling you that you need to get married. Then there are books, know-it-alls, friends, family, etc who tell you WHY you need to get married and WHY you AREN’T married. Of course, the closer you get to 30, and after you’ve done reached 30 (or more) it seems as though there’s a need to HURRY! Maybe it’s because we are in such a fast paced world, or those special books, know-it-alls, friends, family, etc just want us to be happy like they are. I tend to believe that God created us to have the mentality that it takes two, Two By Two! Between the friends and family setting you up, Self-Help books, Preachers, Teachers, Co-Workers, and everyone else who decides to meddle in your life, there’s no break from the “you need to get married” syndrome.
That being said, a topic I’ve discussed here on my blog several times has come up a couple times in the past month. That topic being INTERNET DATING. I try to do the logical thing, pros and cons. On one hand, IF I were looking at this point in time, there are NO available single guys in this area that are worth the hassle. Most aren’t christians...and the one’s that are do not show any interest in you. In my neck of Nashville, there are TWO single guys. One of which is my brother - Ick! The other is so new, all the single vipers have already turned him into their prey. LOL Literally!
On another hand, I dunno if I wanna PAY some internet service to “hook me up”. I just can’t get that thought process out. I know that if God wants two people together, He will use whatever means available. I just can’t get it out of my mind that you have to PAY to find a potential mate. It just seems like you’re going to the mall and looking for the latest model of MAN.
On one hand, it’s kind of exhilirating! Exciting. Meeting new people...the suspense of not knowing who is out there looking at your profile. But then, there is also the disappointment of not getting any replies, or nobody viewing your profile. The scary people that may be on there.
I just don’t know what my opinion is on this whole online-match-making-thing. Yet another thing to add to my list of things I hate about dating. Too many decisions to be made for something that’s supposed to be so much fun. I do not find it fun but rather a pain in my side. It would’ve been less stressful and easier for me if God would just send a boy with a sign that says “I’m your future husband”. THAT’s my ideal date! LOL
After reading all my comments on my last blog, I supposed I’ll have to get more serious from now on if I want comments! I’m so glad that I’m not alone in my struggles in this life, that others go through the same thing. There is comfort in that.
Right now I’m going to go. Emma is on and it’s such a great movie!
AM OUT!
ooh..oooh! I want one with a sign like that too! (to be said in my best Chris whining voice)
Posted by on 05/29 at 11:28 AMAmy Marie,
You are way too attractive and talented to be sweating when “Mr. Right” will come along.I understand your hesitancy to have to PAY for a chance to meet him. Just remember your Sunday School stories about how the patriarchs and our ancestors had to have dowries to “seal the Deal”. Abraham had to pay for Rebecca, Jacob surrendered 14 years of wages for Rachel,etc. So, it isn’t a totally foreign concept.
The size of the dowry was usually determined by the beauty of the bride. Many times it involved livestock and could vary from “a head to a herd”.
And no matter how beautiful or unattractive she was,it was the FATHER’S responsibility to pay the bill. So, tell Deon to write the check when you’re ready to go wading in the internet dating pool.
FYI, my 32 year old son met his wife last June on the internet and I married them on March 25. He is a school teacher and she is a stock broker.Ain’t God GOOD! Both are dedicated Christians and KNOW it was God’s will for them to meet. They only lived 5 miles from each other but met in Cyberspace.
So, follow your heart. If that’s what God wants you to do,He’ll direct you to proceed. After all, :It is He that worketh in you both to WILL and DO His good pleasure.
Blessings be to you as you bless others with your ministry.
Donald Frazier,Ph.D.
Marriage and Family TherapistPosted by Dr. Donald Frazier on 06/04 at 09:01 PMok, time for a new blog!
Posted by on 06/26 at 10:15 AMMy hubby and I met online, completely at random (not through a dating service), and we lived about 10 miles apart, went to the same college at that time, and even knew some of the same people for years, but never met or had even heard of each other. Now we’ve been married over 6 years and couldn’t be happier. There’s no way God has anyone else more perfect out there for me. It’s so much FUN when people ask us how we met to respond with “We met online!”
Posted by Candy on 08/25 at 04:19 PM
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